Dating life is not easy, at least that is the common perception. And according to Jeff Guenther, a licensed professional counsellor based in Portland, sometimes we are the ones responsible for it without even realising it. It is important to pick the right person for us and not who we wish we were, states Jeff. (Pixabay) Also Read | AIIMS-trained gastroenterologist shares 8 small habits that quietly improve health: Diet, sleep schedule, and more Taking to Instagram on January 6, he shared three ways in which individuals sabotage their own dating experience by being oblivious to clear signals. 1. Picking the wrong rebound After an individual ends a relationship and decides to get back out there once again, their main goal often becomes to simply not date the person who has just hurt them. “You want so badly to avoid that specific negative qualities that you end up swinging the pendulum to the exact opposite extreme, forgetting that the polar opposite of a toxic trait can be just as dysfunctional,” observed Jeff. For instance, if …